Infant Toddler Supplemental to Little Sunshine House Parent Handbook
TABLE OF CONTENTS
- Classroom Composition and Staffing
- Continuity of Care and Primary Caregiving
- Parent Concerns
- Daily Schedules –
Lesson Planning Infants & Toddlers
Older Infants and Toddlers
- Daily Routines
- Safe Sleeping Practices
- Shoe‐Free Environment
- What To Bring To LSH
- Other Items
- Infant and Toddler Developmental Issues
Managing Normal Aggression in Very Young Children
All Infants and Toddlers will have a Primary Caregiver. The primary-caregiver system ensures that every child has a “special” person and that each parent has a primary contact. Primary educators are a best practice according to the National Association of Education for Young Children along with research from West Ed and PITC. In addition to NAEYC, RIE and PITC Little Sunshine House looks to current research on brain development and attachment to create a warm, responsive and caring environment.
Either the Lead Educator or the Assistant Educator will be your child’s primary. The primary caregiver forms a caring, nurturing, and responsive relationship with your child. In the classroom, they will be the “expert” on your child, knowing pertinent information such as your child’s individual schedule, developmental abilities and special needs, sleeping needs, and individual interests. Having a primary caregiver gives children a secure base. They learn to trust someone familiar who will care for them as they explore and who will be there to comfort them when they are tired, upset, or frightened. Their relationship with a primary caregiver helps children feel secure enough to relate to other adults in the childcare setting. However, “primary” does not mean exclusive. Children should not become totally dependent on the presence of one person. The other staff in the classroom will develop a warm relationship with your child and have caring and learning interactions as your child explores the learning environment.
As a childcare center we are a community of children, parents, and staff all interacting and sharing our lives together. In a community, people work closely together and hopefully interactions are positive, helpful, kind, and understanding. Yet it is to be expected that from time to time people will experience some conflict, some concerns, and some difficulties. We recognize that parenting is one of the most difficult, intense and rewarding experiences in your life. We want you to share your thoughts, hopes, and dreams for your child. You want what is best for your child and we know it is your job to advocate and protect your child. We, as a staff, will make mistakes, create misunderstandings, and occasionally miscommunicate. When these mistakes occur, we want you to tell us. As a staff it is our goal to offer your family the best in childcare services possible. In order to meet our goal, we need your input, your suggestions, your questions, and concerns. When you have a concern, please remember that the educators want the parents to feel very satisfied with the care their child is receiving.
Talk to the educators directly whenever possible. If you feel comfortable, ask your child’s educator first about any concern. Educators prefer that you talk with them directly, but they o understand if you would prefer to talk with the director.
Realize that if you have a concern with an educator, the director will need to investigate and talk with the educator directly about your concern and deal with the issue in a straightforward manner so that the educator can improve their performance and/or correct any mistakes or misunderstandings.
Please do not allow concerns to build up. As concerns occur share them with the educators. It is disturbing to find out “later” that a parent “had a number of concerns” and never expressed them.
Sometimes we cannot make changes you may request due to other restrictions, but we ALWAYS want to hear your suggestions. We promise to consider them seriously and respond to you in a timely manner.
The daily schedule for the children is a guide. It provides a framework for planning and organizing the daily routine and play activities for the children. The daily routines for children may be a little different based on the age of your child.
Infants follow their own biological needs. They are fed, changed, and nap when they need it. Toddlers are changed/taken to the toilet before transitions in the day and as needed. Adjustments to the schedule are made as your child gets older and his/her needs change. You may also notice that as your child gets older, s/he may alter her/his own schedule to fit in with the group. Some common changes you may notice in your child’s behavior after enrollment in any group care situation include altered sleep/wake patterns (staying awake for longer hours or napping more frequently for short periods of time) or changes in appetite.
The following daily schedules are an outline of a typical day with the infants and toddlers. Keep in mind again that, if needed, the schedule will include children’s individual needs for sleep, food and diapering based on their age. This is a sample that includes the different types of components to the daily schedule.
Sample Typical Daily Schedule Infant
7:00-9:15 Indoor activity time with music and play activities to support cognitive and social development.
9:15-11:15 Outside patio play with bubbles and balls to support physical and social emotional development.
11:15-1:15 Indoor activity time with sensory play to support cognitive, physical development.
1:15-3:15 Stories and dramatic play activities to support social and emotional development along with literacy.
3:15-5:15 Outside exploration and activities to support physical development, social and emotional development.
Sample Toddler daily Schedule
7:15-9:15 Welcome activities and provocations such as art, construction, dramatic play
9:15-11:30 Indoor and Outdoor Classroom set-up to include activities/provocations to include art, math, science, language & literacy.
12:15-2:30 Nap time
2:30-3:00 Small Group time
3:30-5:30 Indoor and Outdoor Classroom Activities set-up to include activities/provocations to include art, math, science, language & literacy.
Curriculum Planning for Infants and Toddlers
During the first two years of life, children are working on acquiring a sense of trustworthiness of oneself and others. This is the sense of safety and security that comes from responsive and predictable care from familiar others to whom the child is attached. In the toddler years, a strong sense of autonomy is building. This comes from being treated as an individual and being allowed opportunities for independence. When children feel the sense of independence, power, and competence, they can step out into the world and be active learners and problem solvers. Young children need a safe environment full of opportunities to explore and have fun. They need to be able to see, touch, feel, and move. The curriculum for the infants and toddlers involves everything that happens to the child throughout the day. Responsive caregiving is the key component to setting up a safe and secure environment and trusting relationships. Everything that a child experiences in the classroom and outside on the playground/on walks is a learning opportunity. For example, diaper changes are perfect opportunities for learning experiences: language, singing gently to a child; showing gentle touches; letting the child know that this is not a hurried or rushed experience and that they are valued and precious individuals; gently moving their legs in a bicycle motion stimulating movement or having them reach and grasp for an object. Throughout the day, educators will take advantage of these caregiving experiences that are so important in the early years of life and turn them into meaningful and positive experiences for a child’s healthy development.
Along with the individual caregiving moments, educators will also plan and organize their environments to provide experiences which enhance motor development – reaching, grasping, crawling in and out, throwing, pulling; cognitive development – object permanence, cause and effect experiences, language, listening and responding to sounds and voices, and problem solving; social development – playing among others, positive peer interactions, and expressing emotions towards others. Planning for infants and toddlers does not necessarily involve “lessons” but rather opportunities for experiences that as individuals they can make the most out of. When educators organize materials for the room, they consider children’s individual differences along with their knowledge of child development. Planning is based on observations of the children using their interests, their new skills, and their reactions to materials. As the children grow and change, the educators change the classroom environment. They may put our more challenging climbing equipment or add a building area with different toys. A classroom will look very different at the end of a year than it did at the beginning!
Daily Outside Play
Children benefit from the fresh air by breathing air that has fewer germs in it than indoor air, and outdoor exercise will increase their general fitness and resistance to infection. Colds and flues are more common during winter months because they spread easily when people spend more time in closed, heated, and stuffy rooms. Breathing warm, dry indoor air irritates tissues in the nose and throat, making it easier to catch a cold. Outdoor experiences help promote health not illness. Taking the children including, infants & toddlers, outside daily is considered healthy practice in a quality childcare program.
If a child is in attendance during the outdoor time, s/he is healthy enough to then go outside with the rest of the children. All children in attendance during their classroom’s outdoor play time will go outside. Please do not ask for your child to stay inside during the outdoor time. Parents may not make requests for their child to stay inside while the rest of the group is outside. We will stay indoors due to unhealthy air quality or unsafe weather conditions.
Food for Infants
Young infants will be fed according to their own schedule. As they grow and start eating solids foods, their eating needs will change, and the eating times will be adjusted toward the group schedule. During lunch, infants not yet eating table food will be served cereals and jarred foods. Parents should provide foods that they have previously served at home. A parent may bring in breastmilk if desired. As your infant grows and becomes more adept at eating, he will be using his fingers for eating “finger-foods” and working on using infant utensils. As infants gradually start to eat cereals, jarred foods, and table foods, parents will inform the educators in the classroom as to what their child can eat. If your infant (eating table food) or toddler should have a food allergy or a food intolerance, please notify your child’s educator immediately.
Parents of bottle-fed babies will need to provide pre-made labeled plastic bottles, with nipples, and lids. If you are breast feeding your child, all breast milk must be dated and have your child’s name on it. Fresh breast milk will be stored for 24 hours in the refrigerator or up to two weeks in the freezer. Milk that exceeds this time frame will be discarded. Contents remaining in any bottle must be discarded within two hours. Only breast milk, formula, or water will be placed in your child’s bottle. No bottles will be served with cereal or any other food product in them. The only items served from a bottle include water, breastmilk, and formula. This is a licensing standard. Parents are welcome to come and bottle feed or breastfeed their infants at any time. Breast feeding mothers are welcome to use the room to pump and can use the sink/kitchen area to do any necessary cleaning afterwards. Bottles are not heated in the microwave, as this will produce “hot spots” in the formula or breast milk and will be warmed in a bottle warmer. If your child is breast fed and a parent forgets to bring in breast milk or the frozen supply is depleted, the infant will be fed from a back-up supply of formula. We will try to get in touch with you first to see if breast milk can be supplied by you soon; however, if we are unable to get in touch with you and your child is hungry, we will feed him or her the formula.
Older infants and toddlers
Older infants and toddlers will be given the lunches and snacks that are provided by their parent/s. LSH is NUT FREE this includes all tree and bush nuts. Alternatives to peanut butter include sunflower butter, humus, seed butters.
Lunches for all children should be healthy and include a protein, whole fruits, whole vegetables, and fibers. We will not serve foods with added sugars such as gummy fruits. In addition, we ask that the older infants and toddlers have lunches that do not need to be heated. Lunches that include soup or noodles can be brought in a thermos. Each child should bring a reusable water bottle in addition LSH will provide water.
Lunch and snacks will be served at a small table with chairs; toddlers will be at tables and chairs to eat their meals. Children in the toddler room (and some infants) will be using sippy cups or regular cups and using utensils. Depending on the age grouping of children in the toddler room, bottle drinking may or may not be a practice. For example, if a young toddler around 18 months is in this room, the educators will consider this child’s use of a bottle, it may be comforting or helpful in the transition to a sippy cup for the bottle to be used at times. It is our goal to work cooperatively with the families and their child’s routine.
Infants nap according to their own schedules. If an infant should fall asleep while being rocked, lightly bounced, or taken for walk in a stroller, they will be put in their cribs to continue their sleep. When a child reaches 12-15 months, cot sleeping will be encouraged. All the bedding for infants and toddlers is provided by the parent and should be taken home weekly to wash. Children who are on cots may bring a soft stuffed animal or other soft attachment item (no cups or bottles). Children only sleep in cribs or on cots. Children are not left to sleep in car seats at drop off. Children are not placed in cribs to play; only to sleep.
Safe Sleeping Practices
It is our practice for infants under 15 months to be placed on their backs to sleep in a crib. After 12 months, if a parent has other sleeping positions preferred, this can be discussed with the educator. The infants and toddlers under 15 months are provided with a firm, tight-fitting mattress in a crib that meets current safety standards. There will be no pillows, quilts, bumpers, comforters, sheepskins, stuffed toys, or other fluffy products in the crib. Two children are never sharing a crib at the same time.
Please No Shoes
With infants commonly on the floor, LSH wants to provide a clean, safe, and healthy environment in the Infant Room. We practice a “shoe-free” policy in this room. We ask that adults entering the area of the infant room please slip a pair of shoe covers over their shoes or leave their shoes by the door on the shoe shelf. We take this action to prevent outside contaminants from being brought into the room. The infants spend much of their time exploring on the floor, so it is best that these areas be kept as clean as possible.
What to Bring
Active and sometimes messy play is going to be a part of your child’s day. It is recommended that children wear comfortable, washable play clothes that are easy to move around in and OK if something spills on it! Children must be dressed in clothing and not just wearing a diaper and/or onesie. Parents are asked to bring a complete change of labeled clothing, including socks, onesies, shirts, pants, shorts, etc. to be left at school. If clothing items are not labeled, it makes it extremely difficult to remember which items of clothing go to which children. It is also a good idea to keep a light sweater or sweatshirt in your child’s cubby in case it feels a little chilly in the classroom or is chilly outside. For older infants who are walking, it is helpful if parents keep a clean pair of shoes here at the center for your child to wear in the classroom.
Children who are enrolled in the warmer months should also bring a hat, sunglasses, and sunscreen.
Children who are enrolled in the colder, winter months must be properly dressed to go outside. Every child goes outside. Infants must have warm and protective clothing and toddlers need to have clothing appropriate for playing on the playground.
Your child should arrive with enough diapers and wipes for the day. A good estimate in one diaper for every two hours in care. Your child will be changed at regular intervals throughout the day and as needed. Educators will update parents to needed supplies weekly.
If your child uses a pacifier, parents are asked to provide a labeled one. Children in the Infant room who use pacifiers will have them on an as-needed basis throughout their day.
Children in the toddler room who use a pacifier will be given it only at nap time. Toddlers will not be allowed to walk around the classroom with a pacifier during the day for the following reasons: it is not healthy for a child to pick up a pacifier off the floor once dropped and put back into their mouth; another child may put someone else’s pacifier in their mouth; it is difficult to understand a child who is trying to talk with one in his/her mouth; and, the muscles in their mouth and tongue need to learn how to work when talking without a pacifier in it.
If your toddler has a special “lovey” to sleep with, like a small stuffed animal or small blanket, please label it and your child will have it during nap. At times a new child may have a hard time transitioning; we try to work with the families in helping this adjustment be less stressful. Infants and toddler may bring a comfort item to help him or her transition into childcare. Eventually, your child will not feel the need for it at school and will have formed positive relationships with his educators. We view transitional comfort items as something that will benefit the child in helping him/her feel secure in this new environment.
Infant and Toddler Developmental Issues
Separation can be a difficult process for both the children and parents. When babies are somewhere between 8 and 10 months of age they are often distressed when they are separated from their parents. This anxiety can last into the second year of life. Typical reactions associated with separation anxiety are crying, clinging, and trying to follow. When a toddler becomes more verbal, separation anxiety may include words of protest: “Mommy stay” or “I go.” New people and new routines can be scary for little ones. Every child is unique and they all respond to separations differently. Parents should be aware; however, that children take their cues from them. When a parent feels good and responds positively to dropping their child off, the child will sense this.
The following is a list of things to do that can help the separation process go smoother for both you and your child. These helpful hints can be applied from the youngest of babies to the oldest of preschoolers.
Talk to your child ahead of time as to what is going to happen, such as “Today is a school day!”
Talk with your child’s educator daily and establish a friendly relationship. This helps when you may have to give your child to her at drop off and the more comfortable you are, the better your child will respond. You can help your child begin to settle by offering a toy or read a book.
Say your good-byes to the child and then leave. Make the departure definite. Depending on your child, he or she can get mixed signals from a parent who hangs around for too long or from ones who go and then turn around and come back. On the other hand, it is never best to simply sneak away from your child without saying good-bye. Always tell your child good-bye and you will see him later. Sometimes it is helpful for a parent to get into a routine as to saying the same thing every day like “I’m going to work now. Have a great day at school. I love you very much and I will see you later. Good-bye.” Children become comfortable with routine and life becomes somewhat predictable for them. When a child sees their parent departing positively, and then discovers that every day they do come back, separations become easier and a trust is built between the parent and child and makes him/her feel comfortable and good about being in school.
This last one may be a difficult one to do for a parent. If your child begins to cry while you are leaving, please do not turn around and come back. It is a natural reaction for many parents to immediately want to go back to comfort their child when they are distressed. Of course, the educators are sensitive to that. However, coming back to ease a crying child will not make the separation any easier when a parent really must leave; in fact, it may be harder for your child the second time around. After you leave, feel free to message us to see how your child is doing. It is typical for children to regain their composure and get into their daily routine shortly after a parent leaves. Sometimes children who have had easy drop-offs for the first week or two may suddenly start to become upset at their parents’ departure. This is a typical reaction in a group care setting. Then usually children become accustomed to the idea of coming to school every day or every week. Providing continuity of care will also be helpful as your child will have a consistent caregiver and group of friends for a long period of time. Having continuity provides for a very trusting and predictable environment for your child.
Children biting other children are unavoidable occurrences of group childcare,
especially with toddlers. It is a common happening in any childcare program. When it happens, and sometimes continues, it can be scary, very frustrating, and stressful for children, parents, and staff. Every child in the infant and toddler classrooms is a potential biter or will potentially be bit. It is important to understand that because a child bites, it does not mean that the child is “mean” or “bad” or that the parents of the child who bites are “bad” parents or they are not doing their job as parents to make this stop happening. Biting is purely a sign of the developmental age of the child. It is a developmental phenomenon – it often happens at predictable times for predictable reasons tied to children’s ages and stages.
Why do they bite?
Every child is different. Some bite more than others; or some may not bite at all. The group care setting is where the biting derives its significance. If a child has not really been around other children very much, he probably would not bite because neither the cause for biting nor opportunities have presented themselves. There is always the possibility that any child, including your own, can be either a biter or be bitten. Group care presents challenges and opportunities that are unique from home. The children are surrounded by many others for hours at a time. Even though there are plenty of toys and materials available for all the children, two or three children may want that one particular toy. The children are learning how to live in a community setting. Sometimes that is not easy. Biting is not something to blame on the child, parents, or caregivers. Confidentiality is also practiced with biting. We cannot and tell a parent who bit their child. There are many possible reasons as to why an infant or toddler may bite: 1. Teething. 2. Impulsiveness and lack of control. Babies sometimes bite just because there is something there to bite. It is not intentional to hurt, but rather exploring their world. 3. Making an impact. Sometimes children will bite to see what reactions happen. 4. Excitement and overstimulation. Simply being overly excited, even happily so, can be a reason a child may bite. Young children do not have the same control over their emotions and behaviors as some preschoolers do. 5. Frustration. Frustrations can be over a variety of reasons – wanting a toy someone else has, not having the skills needed to do something, or wanting a caregiver’s attention. Infants and toddlers are simply lacking the language and social skills necessary to express all their needs, desires, and problems. Biting will often be the quickest and easiest way of communicating.
What do the educators do in response to children who bite?
It is our job to provide a safe setting in which no child needs to hurt another to achieve his or her ends and in which the normal range of behavior is managed (and biting is normal in group care). Again, the name of the child who bites will not be released because it serves no useful purpose and can make a difficult situation even more difficult. Punishment does not work to change a child who bites neither delayed punishment at home, which a child will not understand, nor punishment at the center, which will not be used and would make the situation worse. There are several things the educators do to assess the biting situation and what can be done to prevent it from happening again. Educators can try to minimize the behavior by:
Letting the biting child know in words and manner that biting is unacceptable.
Avoiding any immediate response that reinforces the biting, including dramatic negative attention. The educators will tell the child that “Biting hurts” and the focus of caring attention is on the bitten child. The biter is talked to on a level that s/he can understand. The educator will help the child who is biting work on resolving conflict or frustration in a more appropriate manner, including using language if the child is able.
Examining the context in which the biting occurred and looking for patterns. Was it crowded? Too many toys? Was the biting child getting hungry/tired/frustrated? Not casually attributing willfulness or maliciousness to the child. Infants explore anything that interests them with their mouths, and that includes others’ bodies and limbs! When biting changes from a relatively unusual occurrence (a couple times a week) to a frequent and expected occurrence, it will be addressed with added precautions.
The educators will keep track of every occurrence, including attempted bites, and note location, time, participants, and circumstances.
Educators will “Shadow” children who indicate a tendency to bite. This technique involves having a educator/educator with a child who bites. This educator would be able to possibly anticipate biting situations and to teach non-biting responses to situations and reinforce appropriate behavior in potential biting situations.
If you have not experienced Temper Tantrums in action, you probably soon will. Often it is marked by a screaming child and a frustrated and sometimes embarrassed parent performing unsuccessful attempts to make the whole thing go away. During toddlerhood, children struggle to develop a sense of themselves as separate from their parents. This process, called differentiation, starts at birth and lasts well into young adulthood. It is the process of becoming a separate and successful individual. The first step in differentiation is related to control – who is in control of me, my body, and my emotions? Early in your child’s life you are in charge. Now, you want your toddler to begin to take charge of some of his or her own behavior. This process of transferring some responsibility for control usually results in children losing exactly what you are striving to help them gain – control! When your toddler feels angry, frustrated, or helpless, he or she may kick, scream, and flop on the ground. Tantrums are a normal, natural, and inevitable part of growing up. That does not make them fun. Plan now for how you will handle it when your child begins to tantrum. The first step of the plan is preventative in nature. Help your child have some control over his or her life. Start small. Maybe your toddler can help you pick out what he or she wants to wear from several choices. Giving your toddler choices gives him or her experiences with making decisions and having them turn out successfully. When your child shows competence in getting in or out of the car, eating with a spoon or fork, or pulling on his or her own socks, reward these early attempts at independence and self-control (“You did it Joe – you put your socks on all by yourself!”), Pick a safe place for your child to be out of control in your home. When your child is out of control – you can take him or her there. Make sure to tell your tantrumming child calmly that he or she is free to stay out of control for as long as he or she needs – remember; part of this stage is learning that you can take charge of your own behavior: Choosing whether or not you want to scream for one minute or 10 is certainly taking charge of your own behavior! It is important to follow through with your response to tantrums. If children get attention from tantrums, they will last much longer than if they have no audience. Removing yourself as an audience quickly and calmly is the best thing you can do to lessen the frequency of tantrumming. When a tantrum is over – it’s over. Accept the child back into family life as if nothing has happened. Tantrums are a developmentally normal step in developing a competent, capable child. As frustrating as they can be for parents, a calm, confident approach will go a long was to prevent this stage from lasting very long.
Managing Normal Aggression in Very Young Children
Parents dread the day when the educators reports that his or her child is responsible for hurting another child. But that day will probably come. Aggression is a normal part of young children’s experiences. Aggression results from powerful emotions that are not yet under the child’s direct control. Children hit, pinch, bite, slap, and grab when their emotions cause them to act before they can think about doing something different. Children at this age have such limited social and language skills that the best way to communicate is often through physical means. Children learn to manage aggression when supportive adults help them learn other skills and connect consequences with aggression. Using aggression to stop aggression only teaches children that they must submit to adults who are bigger and more powerful. It does not help children gain control over aggressive behavior or replace it with more appropriate skills. Replacing aggressive behavior with more sophisticated skills is a process. Learning to express feelings appropriately is a lifelong task. The first steps are taken in the first three years.
Early experiences with the consequences of aggression help children learn over time that aggressive behavior does not accomplish much. After this lesson is learned, children can begin the process of becoming assertive enough to prevent from being victimized and becoming authoritative enough to be a leader. These important lessons will never be learned unless parents and educators help children learn to manage normal aggression and convert it into constructive assertion and leadership.
(Information about tantrums and aggression from Innovations : The Toddler Curriculum by Kay Albrecht and Linda Miller
Educators and parents will meet for an intake meeting. This meeting is critical to gather important information about your child and family. The educators have specific questions they ask to better care for your child and meet the needs of your family.
Daily Verbal Communication
We encourage parents to talk with their child’s educator at drop-off and/or at pick-up. It is important for the educator to know information about your child, like how they slept last night, when they ate last, if they have any medicine, if they are teething, etc. The sharing of this information is important to best meet your child’s needs. Daily communication through Brightwheel is appreciated.
Brightwheel is used to log and document diaper changes, nap times, and feeding times/food eaten/amounts. For bottle-fed babies it will also indicate how many ounces were eaten at that time.
A monthly newsletter/documentation write up is provided to parents sharing information on child development topics, curriculum, policies, and other announcements.
Parents are welcome at any time to come and visit their child. For mothers who are breast feeding, the infant room provides a comfortable and peaceful area to enjoy that feeding time. For some children, particularly toddlers, multiple separations from the parent during the day may make the transition to school more difficult.
Family socials are planned throughout the year. This could include events like a potluck, a picnic, a fun curriculum night…. Attending these events are great ways to show your child that school is part of the family routine and to strengthen the bond between home and school.
Parent conferences are schedule once a year and may also be held at any time parents or educators find it necessary. The infant and toddler years are marked by so much growth and change that conferences are a good time to discuss all the developmental issues surrounding them. Educators put out sign-up sheets prior to the times conferences will be held. Parents sign up to talk with their child’s primary. A developmental summary is shared with the parents during this time along with a formal assessment tool. Should there be any concerns that arise based on any educator observation or assessment, a proper referral will be made with the expectation of working cooperatively with the parents to assist in their child’s healthy development. Parent conferences typically take around 30 minutes.
There are times in the infant and toddler classrooms different issues surrounding confidentiality and maintaining the child’s personal space and privacy will arise. These are classrooms where many times parents are fresh to parenthood and seeking information to help them make sense of their quickly developing child; as well as, wanting to be a part of the classroom and their child’s school environment. There are areas in which a parent will need to be aware of when interacting in the classroom and being around the children. Confidentiality is an important component to the parent/school relationship. It is honored by the educators for all children and their families. Please understand that the educators do not and cannot discuss any child’s development, family situation, or any other personal information unique to that child with other parents. Confidentiality leads to the issue of developmental comparisons between children in the classrooms. We realize it is a natural parental response – you see your child growing up among a group of others close to the same age range. Comparing children is sometimes relevant or helpful but is also a “dangerous” thing to do – the windows of time that any skill takes to develop in the infant and toddler years are so vast that it truly serves no positive purpose to note that your child either can or cannot accomplish the same developmental tasks as the next child. For example, the window of time for a child to accomplish walking can range anywhere from 9 to 18 months. If your 11-month-old is walking, but the child next to him is 13 months and not walking – that is not an issue or concern. The educators perform assessments on all the children – not by comparing them to each other – but rather by observing and noting progress and growth they have made within themselves. You are always welcome in the classroom; however, we ask you to refrain from making comparisons and asking about other children’s developmental levels.
Personal Space in the Infant Classroom
Being a parent in the infant classroom is different sometimes that being a parent in the older rooms. I have noticed that parents in the younger rooms physically are in them more, get to know the other children on a more personal level more, and they have well intentions in trying to help out another child more. I believe these observations to be simply a natural part of being an infant and toddler parent who has their child in group care. We do understand the well intentions of a parent seeing another child crying or wanting to pick up a child to console him or her; but we do ask for you to refrain from handling other people’s children. Ultimately, the center is responsible for the infants while in our care. There are a few reasons why we ask for you to refrain from a lot of physical interaction with other people’s children. First, other parents simply may not want or appreciate people who are not staff at LSH handling their child. This is a legitimate and respected concern. Second, all the staff have gone through the appropriate channels of DCFS.